Are Dead Beat Parents Really Dead Beats?

In the media, we often see all kinds of complaints about dead beat parents who abandon their children, leaving them impoverished and dependents of the state.  I have heard so many people say how "Dead Beat Parents" should be punished and should be jailed, or castrated or some other horrible form of torture of punishment. These opinions are based on the UNUSUAL story in the media (not the normal parent who is being punished for being absent from the home) where this guy is going around spreading his seed in every womb he possibly can. He has like 30 children, works a minimum wage job which he pays 40% of his earnings to child support. What the public does not take in to consideration is that this story made it in the headlines because it is not the "AVERAGE" dead beat parent story.

First I want to establish how I feel about Child Support and where I personally stand.  First I believe that a capable and healthy parent who is capable of working and ASSISTING the custodial parent with raising the children should pay a reasonable amount if the absent parent makes more than the custodial parent. If the absent parent purchases clothing, groceries, diapers, formula, or helps to pay the rent for the home the child/ren reside on a custodial basis, than those receipts should be considered as child support payments. I also believe that Child support should be reasonable which means it is not the same amount as a car payment or a house payment if the absent parent lives near, around, or under the poverty level. An absent parent can NOT provide for their children or help their children in any way if they can not stay healthy by having groceries and medical care, keep dependable transportation to get to/from work and to visit with the child/ren as well as provide basic needs for themselves such as shelter, with running water and electricity. (Benefits the kids too, because the absent parent has a place for the child/ren to visit).

Child support payments should be counted as an expense that is a necessity when the absent parent applies for help or services because they live under the level of poverty.

Disabled parents whose only source of income is SSDI Or SSI, should NOT have to pay for child support. If the custodial parent is capable of working and the absent parent is not, I believe the custodial parent should receive the assistance to make it possible for the custodial parent to work and provide for the children (such as child care assistance). If an absent parent can not work due to a disability or other cause, they are not dead beats, they are disabled and is likely the reason they are not the custodial parent in the first place.  

Now, I will go over the the NORMAL Story of the AVERAGE absent parent.

Absent Parent was married to Custodial Parent long enough to have a child or more. Absent Parent and Custodial Parent have a problem for whatever reason and get a divorce. The majority of the time the child or children of the these parents can only live with one parent. That parent becomes the Custodial Parent. The other parent is then named the Absent Parent. Sometimes but not always, the Absent Parent was actually the Primary Care Giver of the child or children during the marriage and did not have an income and that is how the decision of who the children would live with was made in the first place.

The Custodial Parent is awarded an insane and unreasonably high Child support payment (mostly paid to the government instead of the family whom only then get $50 out of that payment if they are lucky because they quit their job and went on welfare or just simply applied for welfare).

Now, the absent parent working their behinds off, can no longer afford a car payment, mortgage payment or even rent, so they are forced to sell the car and move in with a roommate or few to provide shelter. The absent parent eventually loses their job because they do not have dependable transportation and can not get to work on time or work over time due to the schedule of public transportation services. While they are looking for a job that they are now hindered from getting because they do not have dependable transportation (public transportation is not dependable transportation) and they were fired from their last job because they were late to often and did not have a flexible schedule. Months go by and the absent parent is struggling to survive while seeking employment. They may even get lucky and have a friend who will loan them a car to work so they can have a better chance to find a job. Problem is, their child support when into arrears and is accruing at a 10% interest on top of foster care charges (although their kids are not in foster care) and now their Driver's License is taken away from them. Now they are back to the beginning. No dependable transportation and an added huge amount of a blemish on their credit which now employers look at credit ratings of all applicants to see if they are a "risk".

Now with bad credit, no car, no license, they are lucky to have a place to live or food to eat. Now the absent parent can't help support the children at all and the absent parent is continually living off the grace and charity of others or even homeless. The absent parent is then awarded the title "Dead Beat Parent".  They are sometimes arrested for the crime of not paying the outrageously unreasonable child support order to the State. This does not help the absent parent get work which does not help relieve the welfare problem. Everyone is told that absent parents are the evil and bad ones that deserve to be punished because they lost the draw when custody was established.

The Absent Parent, was turned into the Dead Beat Parent with unreasonable child support demands. Reasonably, if the absent parent is working minimum wage or in poverty and can not provide medical insurance for themselves then it is unreasonable to order them to pay for medical coverage for a family plan that costs more than it would for a plan they can not pay for just for themselves. If the Child Support payments are close to half or even more than half the cost of the Absent Parents rent, then it is unreasonable.

There are many variables to this scenario but the average scenario goes pretty much the same way when it comes to dead beat parents.  The few that manage by never having another relationship and living with their parents and actually manage to make their payments every month find that they are still paying their child support although their children are past the age of 25 because the government does not tell anyone that the absent parent's payments are going to foster care before any of the payments go toward the actual child support. (usually equal amount as the child support which means if the child support payment is $350. than the foster care payment is $349.60) I actually talked to a guy who paid faithfully every month of every year and his youngest was 26 years old and he was asking the D.A. about why he is still being charged for child support, because his youngest was 26 and he had $0 in arrears.

The Government and the media justify this stupidity by only telling the stories of the few who are actually Dead Beat Parents and avoid telling the truth about the other 4 billion absent parents who got shafted so bad that they can no longer even get a job or pay rent or have a bank account or anything simply because they lost the draw in the issue of custody.   I recall a very nice guy, had a wife and 2 kids until they got a divorce. He had a used car that he was paying on and a trailer that he lived in. He had a decent job, then he got a child support order of over $700. a month. He had to sell the trailer and liquidate the car because he could no longer afford the payments of either. He eventually lost his job because the clunker he replaced the other used car with to cancel the car payment  broke down a lot and caused him to be late or miss work frequently. His child support went into arrears while he was seeking employment and he lost his license. At that point he had NO chance of getting another job that paid equal to his original job if at all, Now, he holds the title "Dead Beat Dad".

Now, the majority of Absent Parents fall under the classification of "Dead Beat Parent" and all the laws that were designed to punish the Absent Parent for being Absent from the home (not necessarily from the life of the kids) under the guise of  "Dead Beat Parent" in order to cover the fact that the government was just trying to find another way into the pockets of the working class American and the poor. These laws to punish the absent parent have only created a bigger problem and does not solve anything. Not only is the government not getting the child support, now, they are not getting the income tax from these once hard working and employed parents (now unemployed) because a percentage of Zero ($0) is Zero ($0). 

when you see these stories about dead beat parents on the news, ask yourself why is this guy on the news if there are billions of dead beat parents just like him?  If the media does not cover low profile murders in an area that has a high murder rate because it is common place, why would the news cover the REAL story of the AVERAGE Absent Parent when it is common place. The secret of getting the facts are to pay attention to those around you and watch and listen to the average person who is part of that label and ask questions. Go directly to the source. Conduct your own personal study before taking someone else's opinions as your own.   There are two sides of every story, hear both sides before passing judgment. 

Learn to think for yourself.



 

What the Government Needs to do but Won't

The marijuana debate, a judge's plea and readers' thoughts

Please take a minute to read the above post then take a minute to read the post below. Please feel free to comment as long as your comments are relevant to this post and it's contents, regardless if it agrees or disagrees with what I have said, it will remain in the comments. If it does not then it will be removed. Just sayin'.



We are the brightest bulbs in the bunch. That is what makes us a threat. The fact that we back Marijuana legalization makes the right wing wackos believe we have no credibility. I do not smoke marijuana, I am not a drug user, in fact I am very selective on which drugs I will take that are prescribed by a qualified physician or their stupid little assistants. I rarely have a small drink of an alcoholic beverage and I do not smoke tobacco. I also believe that all drugs should be legalized with the same respect as prescription drugs. With warning labels and a list of possible side effects. Crimes committed because of drug addiction or alcoholism should be prosecuted as usual. Making any drug illegal is not going to stop anyone from using it and it is not going to end drug/alcohol abuse and addiction and it is not going to prevent crimes. What making it legal will do, it will free up tax payers money by ending the war on drugs and allowing the drug abusers and addicts to destroy themselves and those who survive and recover, good for them. Reallocate the war on drugs funds to Give back the benefits to the working poor, the disabled, and the elderly. Give back to the schools who teach our children and lower the politicians wages since they can't find their way out of a paper bag to do their jobs anyway. Legalize same sex marriage, after all if anyone is stupid enough to sign that freaken contract, let them.  Recognize that abuse, hate speech, bullying and assault on others is not an acceptable expression of religious rights or any other right with the exception of the "right to remain silent". Implement the Buffet Rule and tell anyone who disagrees to find another country to live in. Also, one more thing. If anyone wants to migrate to this country they can do it through legal channels and move through the red tape. We have immigration laws for a reason and one of those reasons is population control. Not important to anyone who does not understand the need to prevent over population through immigration but to those of us who understand the over population problems in Asian countries and other over populated areas such as New York City, we know how it can destroy a country and starve a nation. No, I am not a racist or a bigot nor am I against any race, religion, disability or sexual orientation, age or any other demographic. I am a supporter of the ACLU and I believe in American Freedom and Rights. I also see history repeating itself. Ever think about the disappearance of the Mayans or the collapse of the Roman civilization and other civilizations demise over recorded history? Things are changing with the Patriot Act, NDAA, and CISPA and others that are to come. I see the coming demise of the United States, and honestly, so do many others, only most do not understand what they are seeing. Legalizing pot is just a small piece. I have said my good-byes to Lady Liberty because she is currently being buried under new acts, laws, and legislation until she will no longer exist.  The worst part of it, is that I am 100% correct and I will be labeled a nut job. It is not Government conspiracy, after all, the government doesn't need to conspire and keep secret any of it because the American public doesn't even know what they are seeing the government do right out in the open in the first place. To bad, So sad.  It is all on those who choose to do nothing, those who close their eyes and ignore what is happening and those who are selecting it to happen because they are straight up greedy and moronic. It will be a world that is good for the corporate heads and hand picked Government puppets and bad for the rest of us. Enjoy what you all have chosen and know it is your fault because you let it happen. Natural selection, Nature taking it's course, evolution, and history repeats itself.  There will forever be the Oppressed and the Oppressor. The faces just change a bit.

Childless Mother

In my arms they laid him down

He was so precious it was impossible to frown

Looking at him felt so complete

It was time for him to eat

My heart overwhelmed with love for my child

I had to gaze at him for a while

A good mother I was, or so I believed

I thought I would be since he was conceived

Just one thing; I couldn't provide

I had no funds to ensure he thrived

With me, would he survive?

He was taken from me when he was so young

my heart was shattered

I cried 'til I was numb

Everyday I screamed and cried

My broken heart I could not hide

I am pleased to see he grew up fine

He didn't need me, but he was meant to be mine

I missed him so much over the years

All I have left are my tears

Humans, Monkeys, and Intellectual Decisions

I often refer to the American Population as being stupid and I often make reference of people as monkeys. How intelligent are people? Why does history consistently repeat and why do people make the same mistakes over and over? Where did the cliche "monkey see, monkey do" come from? I absolutely love this video of Laurie Santos speaking of her research using monkeys to answer a question about Human Beings. I am guessing that this discussion may not grab the interest of most Americans considering it requires thought. I know that the few who see this and understand what she is talking about and can follow what she is saying and then follow up by relating it to what they see around them will absolutely get this whole concept. Those who are capable of thinking on their own may even form a logical opinion of their own. This is a 20 minute video but it goes by quickly if you pay attention and understand what she is saying. I wanted to share this on my blog because in my opinion this points out the major flaws in our society and I think that this information gives an extremely important perspective on how Human Beings make decisions.




So many times I was involved in a conversation on a social media site and everyone involved in the conversation are putting in their thoughts and opinions as to what they believe and how they feel about the subject including me. I will then share a link to an article from a credible site that I thought would be a good valuable piece of information that would add value to the conversation. Every single time with out fail, the group participating in the conversation will make a comment or a judgement about the title of the link with out even opening the link and viewing/reading the contents. Usually I link short articles that should only take 5 minutes of a literate persons time to read. They make a judgement on an assumption of what the contents are about with out even looking at it first. People often make decisions or form an opinion on something with out getting all the information or even enough information to make a logical decision. I will use the recent event of Treyvon. Only a small part of the facts were disclosed to the public and because one side was screaming the loudest with a twist on a small portion of the facts, the general public made an uninformed decision and formed an opinion as if it were the absolute truth. The public were outraged by the half truths that were made public and they were outraged with out asking for all of the facts. Turns out Treyvon was not the innocent little 14 year old boy he was portrayed to be although the public made a decision on only a limited amount of information.

I received the request in my email to sign a petition that did not have all the information and was only filled with claims of a crime that was obviously void of facts. I did not sign that petition because I needed more information to make my decision, I needed to know all the facts that were available. I tend to see things from a different perspective. I don't really believe it has anything to do with I.Q. at all. I actually believe it has to do with how we think, how we choose to see the world. I believe it is our choices that are skewed.  Our choices to make a decision with out asking any questions to get the rest of the facts.  Choices to let others do the thinking for us. I believe Americans are Lazy in very many ways.

Keep in mind I do not believe I am SMARTER or BETTER than the rest. I just believe I ask more questions and am capable and willing to THINK for myself. The world would be a better place if it were filled with rational, logical, people who are willing to work their lazy minds and actually think for themselves. The way we process and make decisions goes back hundreds of thousands of generations. I hope you can listen to this very bright woman, Laurie Santos, and form an opinion of your own.

Just a Rant about Gansters in School

America the land of the Brain Dead. Are American Cognitive abilities shrinking?

A friend of mine has twin sons in the 6th grade. This is a small view of what a 6th grader has to deal with at school. America's education system. The Face of American Ethics and the all around American way. I may speak out against the government but these bullies/gangs are the future and are growing in numbers. Bullying being ok starts at home. A lack of values, morals and ethics. These bullying/gangster kids grow up (if they survive long enough) to be a burden on society in our prison systems. All the while, the rare and few decent kids are victims of the terrorism. Are gang member growing up to be the average American?

 Hear one mother's sorrow as she briefly tells what the kids in the 6th grade deal with.

"The school my boys go to is a 6th grade campus only. They have been telling me all yr how the gangs are really bad there. Well since its almost the end of the yr, the gang activity has increased dramatically.One of the students house was shot at the other night. They had to have an emergency assembly to talk to the students about gangs and all the fights going on. Kids are scared to go use the restroom because they get jumped in there. They hold the door closed so no one can get in there to break it up. The students are afraid to answer questions from the teacher because they get ridiculed for it by the other students. They don't get to eat lunch because it gets stolen from them. How can a school allow these things to happen? If this is going on in 6th grade, what's going to happen next yr? How can I send my kids to school knowing these things are happening? They should feel safe at school."

I grew up with this mother. We lived in the same school district when we were teens. When we were in school the district that we lived was very nice and peaceful and did not have to worry about getting jumped in the bathroom or worse killed at any moment. Today in that same district, the school I went to is now Gang ridden and a dangerous place to be. Our few smart kids can't even get an education because the dumb class of kids (majority) are too stupid to figure out that knowledge is power. A lot of people try to blame it on economic status. It has nothing to do with being poor, it has to do with intellect. I grew up extremely poor, I lived in gang infested neighborhoods (until my parents worked their way into a safer neighborhood when I was in the 11th grade).

People were shot and axed to death all the time on my block. Toxic waste was illegally dumped right behind my house. My parents worked hard to provide shelter and food. We were taught work ethics, we were taught to be kind to others, and to treat people with compassion. These are the values that have degraded over the years between my childhood and the life of today's children. This is the reason the government is so easily removing our rights and freedoms. Our youth have become low lives who have no intelligence. They have a drive to fight for something but they are too stupid to figure out what really matters. The Gangsters are our future. That is the intelligence level that we are dealing with. That is the mindset that sets the tone of our future.

It is my belief that the reason that only a few thousand or even a few hundred thousand across the nation are fighting peacefully for what matters because the rest of America are simply to stupid and it shows from what type of children they are producing. My heart goes out to the few students in this school like my friend's kids who have to deal with the dangerous intellectually challenged monkeys who do what they see or are told by the leader monkey. "monkey see, monkey do". The gangster kids become gangsters because they are not capable of thinking for themselves. Because the majority of Americans can not think for themselves, they can not teach their children what they do not know and here we are.

The next level in the history of evolution.